The Ultimate Guide to Female Ejaculation – How to Make Her Squirt
A squirting orgasm is a big turn-on for women. Having it happen during oral or vaginal sex is even better.
But how do you get her to squirt for you? This article will give you all the tips and tricks to make that happen. It starts with flirting, teasing and some light foreplay.
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Get Her Horny
Getting her to squirt is an incredibly powerful sexual experience that can give her orgasms like you’ve never seen. But it takes a bit of foreplay and the right technique to make her go from horny to ejaculating in one quick stroke.
First, you must warm her with flirting, teasing, and lighter foreplay. Kiss her neck, lick her nipples and squeeze her hips, then slowly caress her clit. Whispering sweet nothings or dirty talk can also be very arousing and help you determine her cues for what kind of stimulation she craves next.
Sex experts, such as Gabrielle Moore, say it’s also important to be conscious of how you touch her genitals so you don’t irritate or hurt her. Always use light, gentle pressure that aligns with her comfort level to prevent this. And remember to keep your fingernails trimmed and filed so they are smooth and don’t nick her sensitive member.
Release the Brakes
Getting her to squirt requires more than just physical stimulation. She has to mentally and emotionally prepare herself as well. Foreplay techniques like massage and kissing can help to do this. But even more important than that is ensuring she feels safe and relaxed enough to let her inner animal loose.
If she’s feeling insecure about her looks, her sexual performance or her achievements, then that will be a major Brake to her ability to relax, let go and squirt. She also needs to feel understood by her partner. This can be hard to achieve, but it is vital for a woman’s sex drive.
Finally, she will need a lot of stimulation of her clitoris and vagina. That’s why the right position is so important. It will ensure you can stimulate both the clitoris and her vagina simultaneously. It’s also a good idea to use some lube, especially if she’s taking any medication that makes her vagina dry. This will keep her from getting too irritated with the friction of rubbing.
Intensify the Accelerators
If she’s still not squirting, you may need to intensify the accelerators, turning her on. Remember that the sexual excitation system (SES) sends signals from the brain to the genitals, telling them to “turn on.” Any stimuli in her environment can trigger this, including things you can do and think about with her.
Rubbing her G Spot in a circular motion with lots of pressure is a good way to give her extra stimulation. This alone can get her to squirt for some women, but it isn’t always enough. You can try fingering her harder and experimenting with techniques, variations and combinations to see what makes her squirt the most.
You can also explore other areas of her body, from head to toe. The more you stimulate the clitoris and other sexually desirable parts of her body, the more engorged her vulva and vagina become. This increases the likelihood of experiencing the squirting orgasm often depicted in pornography. A more engorged vulva and vagina means more water for the urethral sponge, making her squirt.
Give Her the G Spot
The g-spot is a textured and richly nerved area at the internal access point to her clitoral gland. It feels like a wet raspberry and can be felt by slipping your fingers inside her vaginal canal (don’t forget the lube).
Once you find it, gently stroke it with a “come hither” motion. It will feel different than the smooth skin of her vaginal canal and might tingle or even burn a little. This is a good sign.
Finding the exact spot that will make her gush may take a little trial and error, and it’s not something you want to rush into without many warm-ups, including a sensual massage. After a few minutes, try to increase the intensity of your strokes.
You can also try stroking the area in slow circles or a rapid succession of caresses. It’s important to combine clitoral and vaginal stimulation for maximum results.
Let Her Go
When she’s a little closer to the squirting orgasm than she’s ever been, start backing off the stimulation. This will help prolong her pleasure and keep her from climaxing too soon.
While massage is usually used as foreplay to ignite desire, it can also be an effective tool to make a woman squirt during oral sex. Start by locating her G spot and stimulating it (see this guide for tips on how to identify and stimulate the G spot). It may help if she’s already quite aroused.
After a few gentle strokes, apply moderate pressure with your middle finger and then insert it into her G spot. Make sure it’s lubricated so you can slide it in smoothly. Depending on her sensitivity, you might need to gradually increase the pressure and intensity. This will be especially true if she’s new to female orgasms or you’re trying to achieve a squirting orgasm for the first time with her. Be patient, and don’t give up if you don’t see immediate results. This process can take some practice, but it’s well worth it.